A cousin remarked : Boy from yesterday has no excuse...we're about today when people have the exposure.
I answered : Actually he is a sweet boy still, but perhaps no one has shared with him that alternative ways of family life are possible and productive. That is why, films and TV have a great role to play.
The cousin asked : Who are the worst (in regard to treatment of women) ? Bihari, UP or Haryana ? I know it's a general question but trying to understand the traits.
I responded : I feel Haryana is awful in this respect even though individual women have great guts like the wrestler women, or like kangana's character datto. But men generally look at women as part of their property.
UP and Bihar have ofcourse millenia of culture behind them - North Indian civilization grew up around the rivers that dominate north india. the culture is very sweet, accommodating, family oriented. But women are property all the same and must do most of the really difficult tasks in farming and managing housework.
That is not to say men dont bear far more burden than women in some of the most dangerous occupations of the world - the army, mining, and many more. But still, the balance is skewed against women overwhelmingly.
It is parents' excessive focus on sons as carriers of family legacy, genes, family future and as support in their older years, that is the culprit. It is mothers' failing equally as fathers, who continue to raise their sons in a skewed fashion - exactly as maid bimla has been doing with her boy.
I answered : Actually he is a sweet boy still, but perhaps no one has shared with him that alternative ways of family life are possible and productive. That is why, films and TV have a great role to play.
The cousin asked : Who are the worst (in regard to treatment of women) ? Bihari, UP or Haryana ? I know it's a general question but trying to understand the traits.
I responded : I feel Haryana is awful in this respect even though individual women have great guts like the wrestler women, or like kangana's character datto. But men generally look at women as part of their property.
UP and Bihar have ofcourse millenia of culture behind them - North Indian civilization grew up around the rivers that dominate north india. the culture is very sweet, accommodating, family oriented. But women are property all the same and must do most of the really difficult tasks in farming and managing housework.
That is not to say men dont bear far more burden than women in some of the most dangerous occupations of the world - the army, mining, and many more. But still, the balance is skewed against women overwhelmingly.
It is parents' excessive focus on sons as carriers of family legacy, genes, family future and as support in their older years, that is the culprit. It is mothers' failing equally as fathers, who continue to raise their sons in a skewed fashion - exactly as maid bimla has been doing with her boy.
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